Why I Hardly Ever Straighten....

So everyone wants me to straighten my hair.  I guess to see how long it really is or hairdressers that want my $ but dont have the skill set to do anything other than that....who knows.

See this picture?  That is magnified heat damaged hair.  No ma'am! I dont want my hair to look remotely like that.  Most of you call this "trained" hair....its not trained its DESTROYED!   

I went natural to indulge and appreciate my natural curls and so that I wouldn't be scared to sweat.  No matter what your hairdresser tells you or what you saw on your favorite YouTube video...your texture does not return back to its original glory!  Have you ever seen someone whose hair looks partially natural and you are so confused about whether or not she has permed ends or not?  They probably are a victim of heat damage; this is even worse for those of us who have color in their hair. 

For some women they want to loosen up their texture....so maybe this is cool for you or the ones of depend solely on straight hair...well I guess in that case it doesn't matter at all.

As for me and my tresses...we shall remain curly 99.9% of the time.

Ive seen it happen over and over...

I cant tell you what to do...but I can at least share with you why I do what I do.

Now dont get me wrong...I am not against straight hair...Its cool. I just dont want my hair to lose its pattern like Ive seen so many others...

There are some who say they can straighten without heat damage...I hope that they can.  Personally I think it only minimizes the damage/effects.  Its simple chemistry....excess heat applied to most substances can cause a chemical change...meaning covalent bonds have been broken.  Broken bonds...means new substance...which is irreversible.  

I just cant risk it.

Once or twice a year....just to check length if that is all I can do.  

Till Next Time

Staying Cool :) 

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Curly = Pretty?

So this is my hair...

 I dont know what type it is....some say 3c others 4a...needless to say I DON'T CARE! 

Lets just say that I hear a phrase along this line everyday....

"You have that pretty hair"OR my favorite "I would go natural if my hair was like yours"

WHAT DOES THAT MEAN!?! So because my hair is curly...it makes it pretty as opposed to her hair?

 

This is from people of color mind you...

When are we going to just embrace who we are as a people?   What exactly makes my hair "good" and another person's bad?  If your assumption (which is the lowest form of knowledge mind you) is that my hair or curly hair in general is EASIER to maintain...you couldn't be more wrong! It takes just as much maintenance and care to take care of curly hair (if not more) than those who have a more coarse texture of hair. We have to moisturize, trim, cover and pray over our tresses just like the next chick!

There is something to appreciate about each woman's texture...

That is the one thing that I enjoy about natural hair...I can look at different people and see how their hair can do things that mine cant and appreciate that.  ITS FUN! 

I guess the moral of the story is that you should just love what you have. 

If you are caught up in texture that bad...you might as well go on and perm your hair now.....

To all my natural ladies out there that lust after curly tresses...STOP!  Your hair is gorgeous the way it is...its OK!  You dont have to convince me or anyone that your hair is really curly but "something" happened that we never see those curls.  DO YOU BABY!  

Love Your Natural TODAY!

 MY HAIR DOESN'T DO THIS!!! I'm not mad though....I just admire...and remember that my hair is hawt the way God made it....

Till Next Time

Treasuring My Texture :)

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I was on the RADIO!!! LetThemTalk

I was on this internet radio show!  The topic was "Number of Sex Partners & New Relationship".  Very interesting show....

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Metamorphosis

Just a little something...God gave me...

Its for someone...its not testimonial...but meaningful nonetheless 

Metamorphosis

So the story begins...

Shattered torn and so much confusion within...

Why am I not pretty enough, why am I not thin enough

Thick enough...

Why am I not enough!

He left me and then he left me so I tried her

She promised that she was different...she would make me secure.

But I failed to realize that with every decision I was becoming a poster child for the enemy’s brochure.

Man...

How could I be so foolish...

To think that I could win in life doing this...

It started with my daddy...

He hardly came home...

Only to fight with mama

And to touch me in places that were wrong...

That’s when I knew that I was ugly and that I didn’t deserve much

There was no room for God no place for His touch

His voice was silenced from my ears clogged with pain

But deep within the silence He still called my name...

Then one day it happened...

I was confronted with the truth

Song of Solomon 4:7

My love there is NO flaw in you!

You can’t be talking about me

Not with all the wrong Ive done

But His spirit cried out YES

I paid your price with the blood of My Son

He said I made you in my image

Designed for worship and praise

My love you’re a winner...

Destined to prosper all of your days...

Your slate has been washed clean

Let my metamorphosis take you away

From that chrysalis of sin your emerge

A butterfly to take flight

To enlarge your territory and help others make their wrongs right

In time He makes all things beautiful

That’s what the scripture says

And Pastor Tab said its YOUR TIME

So lift up your head!

Embody your PRETTY today because now you know it’s the truth

Walk in your virtue and let His metamorphosis overtake you.

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